Welcome to My Vibrant World of Perseverance & Resilience
I was born in Tehran, Iran with a few great gifts that I decided to apply to my life. These gifts are: constantly welcoming change, staying out of my comfort zone, facing my fears and not designing my journey around my insecurities; the secret is to identify and to acknowledge them, to embrace them, and to gain the courage to break free from them. We are extremely powerful creators and it is time to show up and honor our capabilities.
I remember since early on, I had a great curiosity for the meaning of life and consciousness as a whole. I was questioning the mechanics of everything. Throughout my journey, this curiosity inspired me to study the works of many great minds and amazing influencers with the focus on the story of our origins, the connection between mind/body/ Soul. I was always fascinated by the role of consciousness in the way we experience our lives and healing. These teachings empowered me and gave me the hope to create a better version of myself and a better life at every step of the way. I began to understand that I am not a victim of my genes and I can change myself to break free from the web of limitations I had managed to weave around all the different aspects of me.
While growing up, it was almost impossible to force me to do anything against my desires and I think that is how I earned the title 'stubborn'. Back then I had a very strong inner knowing that I understood how to work with. I was closely in touch with my emotions and intuition. I was able to paint and write poems. Until I started to realize that if I want to be successful, there is a certain way to ‘be’. And the peer pressure kicked in. All of a sudden life was not about what works for my highest good, anymore. It turned into a survival game that I had to be able to make it to the next level, no matter what. It was about which profession generates more income, by which age should one retire, how many cars or houses should one own by the age of forty and the list goes on. My focus shifted to one goal, far from my life purpose. In fact, I didn't even know what life purpose meant anymore. As a result, to rise above all the odds that stood in my way, I became a warrior in the making.
At a major turning point in my life, I listened to a deep calling and studied energy healing and got certified as a Usui Shiki Ryoho Reiki healer. I practiced distance healing for a brief time and I slowly forgot about it. At the age of eighteen, I did a quick analysis: Based on the standard definition of success and where I was standing in life, I had to work really hard to win the gold medal in life's competition for success. I decided to study hard, learn a second language, act professional, play by the rules of a left-brained and analytical society and above all, be politically correct and fit in. I graduated with a B.Sc. in Statistics and my career kick started in international corporations. On the way to achieve success, I lost my voice and personality as a woman. I became a judgmental, workaholic perfectionist overachiever who was always short on time. I was giving every project, all I had, to impress my leaders at work and oh I was acing it.
In 2008, I moved to Sweden to study MBA and that was the first time I was out of my comfort zone in every way. I started building a coping mechanism and a very rigorous problem solving strategy. I had to constantly overcome hurdles to move forward and during the process I experienced depression symptoms for the first time. It didn’t last long and I graduated successfully and started working in a new capacity at the company I was previously working with. It was the first time in Sweden that I came across the topic of waste recycling and reducing carbon footprint and since then I have been working consciously on reducing my carbon footprint. Over the years, I have managed to remove or replace numerous environmental toxicants such as detergents, makeup & beauty products and food packaging items. Today I make more conscious and environmentally friendly food choices, I pay attention to the energy consumption of the electronic devices and what I plug in at home. I stopped driving a personal vehicle and started using public transport. I also realized one indirect aspect of making all these changes is supporting local businesses which makes local communities thrive and helps with ecological integrity and sustainability, so we meet our own needs without compromising the ability of future generations to meet theirs.
Life started rolling with joy; I worked in 3 countries as an expatriate and got to senior management level at an early age. In my mind everything was going according to the golden rule of winning. I was travelling the world and I was in control. I was the boss of me and I was loving it until I wasn't.
Life has a mysterious way of realigning us with our purpose…
I am sure you have heard miracles happen when we are out of our comfort zone. Why is that? Because, that is the space, we have no control over the outcome, our mind cannot predict the exact result. It is unfamiliar and at the same time it is a clean slate where we can create, co-create and manifest magical end results. We are creating from an unknown space, therefore we are not replicating our previous experiences and that is where wondrous surprises happen.
In 2015, I moved to Canada and life took its course. I studied Big Data and Predictive Analytics to freshen my analytical skills to facilitate the process of job finding. But nothing was working anymore based on the rules I was familiar with, not even hard work could resolve my challenges this time. My health was compromised and I experienced burnout for the first time. The fighter I had become, I thought I needed to be stronger and fight harder and the more I fought, the more I struggled. It got to a point that I could no longer walk, I was in bed going through an excruciating pain, in a new city, hired for a new job and I didn't know anyone. I was not able to take care of myself and that's when I stopped trying. I took a step back and spent some time to understand the underlying reasons which brought me to the point I was at. It was a complete dead-end. A web of unresolved emotions that I did not know how to untangle from. Up to that moment, I don't remember enjoying any of my life experiences, as they were happening and unfolding in the present moment. I was either in the past or anticipating some upcoming event in the future which created high stress responses in my body.
As I stopped trying so hard and as I suspended expecting things to go my way, the struggles faded and help showed up. I met new people who became close loving friends and I found the right coach! Suddenly I was surrounded by a wonderful community who helped me immensely to move to the next chapter of my life. I started studying consciousness, epigenetics, human behavior and the impact of thoughts and perceptions on our physical state of being. I was fascinated with this new world. With the help of my mentors and coach I started making small changes which created huge impacts. It was way out of my comfort zone and anything but easy. They say "it's easier for people to die than to make a change." But I was determined to change myself, therefore change my life.
I began meditating and practicing mindfulness. Finally, I was introducing some balance into my daily activities by consciously engaging the right side of my brain. It was at this time when I started learning digital fractal art and was fascinated by this world of infinite colorful patterns of beauty. By elevating my state of mind, my emotions transformed and my whole life shifted significantly. I wasn't a victim of my genes, emotions or environment anymore. I stepped into my sovereignty and stopped giving my power away to every person and event. Unimaginable doors opened. New people walked into my life that I could never dream of. I finally understood the meaning of "It's not the Destination, It's the journey.” -Ralph Waldo Emerson. Now I know how I used to sabotage my success in life by constantly doing rather than just taking a moment to be. As Kurt Vonnegut said beautifully, "I am a human being, not a human doing”. It's surprising how some of these simple ideas and concepts that we have heard about all our lives, can be making monumental effects on our state of being if understood and internalized. We are powerful creators if we develop the capability to hold the awareness in the present moment and think positive.
I started applying all my learnings to my own life and through improving my lifestyle, practicing a combination of healing modalities, 11 chronic or inflammatory health conditions were healed in me. I was realigned with my purpose and meaning. My healing journey started and I started walking again.
In 2018, I began working with ERIEC and TRIEC as a coach. These are career consulting councils helping newcomers to find employment in Canada. Given my career background and the rough path I had walked on, I was able to help many people like myself finding their purpose and achieving their goals.
I met Negin in 2019 when I had just started thinking about going back to distance healing. This was a life changing encounter for me and as we got to know each other on a deeper level, we happened to share many aspirations and values. In 2020, we took a leap of faith and founded Be 8nfinite with the aim to inspire people to get in touch with the wisdom of their heart and empower them to actualize their true potential. A cause very close to both our hearts!
Today, I work as a Life and Executive Coach and I also work as a Performance Analyst. As a way to give back, I practice distance healing and every day I am fascinated by the significant impact it leaves on people's lives.
Here are some of the areas I address for my clients:
- I empower individuals to identify and align with their life purpose through recognizing and developing their physical, emotional, mental and spiritual capacities.
- I assist my clients to embrace change and to surf the waves of uncertainty and doubt safely.
- I teach people about different aspects and levels of resilience (emotional, mental, physical and spiritual) and how to cultivate its higher forms.
- I help individuals to heal from those past experiences that have formed a fear-based belief system.
- I enable my clients to get unstuck and see beyond their limitations and move forward in their power with positivity.
If you feel you are different or you have tried everything and still can't get it right, you are not alone. It takes courage to deal with all that is going on in the world right now and to become who you really are born to be despite your fears, subconscious limiting thought patterns and lack of self-trust. Most of us are not trained on how to access our internal guidance to feel better about ourselves and the world around us and we have not been taught how to be truly courageous, while maintaining a grounded connection to our hearts. The good news is, this is something that we all can learn and we do not need to be held back by a limiting cycle of negativity for the rest of our lives. So I invite you to become infinite by stepping forward and saying yes to yourself.
How does it work?
With more than 2000 hours of Transformational and Executive coaching experience and extensive number of tools and techniques at my disposal, I have put together a process that I call 'Blooming Lotus' with which I can assist you. This is a dynamic and ongoing method which can be applied to any type of challenge or situation that you are trying to rise above.
Where to start?
You can first book a complementary 30-minute 'meet and greet' call with me to get to know each other and review your concerns and desired outcome. Once we decide to work together, you can either book 1-on-1 coaching sessions or the 6-month coaching package. Read more...
Wherever you are, regardless of the challenges you are presented with, stay the course. Try something new every day and never lose hope. If there is anything I can help with to ease your journey, I would be honored to walk the path with you.
“Being out of your comfort zone feels like the fear of living fearless.” ― Shabnam Abghari
What you seek, is seeking you.
What They Say About Shabnam
IT Business Analyst, Canada
"I moved to Canada in 2019 and was facing challenges to create my career path in a new country. I was eager to know more about the Canadian work culture and to create my footprint in the industry. I came across Shabnam's work and her coaching approach to establish a career path in alignment with my purpose. The program was very well structured and I liked it. All the sessions were detailed and different from one another which helped me to grow professionally as well as personally. The encouragement and guidance from Shabnam's personal experiences were relatable and soothing. I was able to find my place in my industry. Working with Shabnam was really nice. and our sessions are still helping me. I am grateful for her undivided attention."
The new master of spy and action novels, Switzerland
"I was at my go-to bakery, feeling a little disappointed browsing through the few pastries still available. I heard the baker asking me:
- Can you find what you want?
- Uh...No! I said.
- You know Sir, you don't always get what you want!
That sentence hit me in the face, I couldn't repress my smile, I remembered all the work I did with my dear coach, Shabnam.
Thanks to her precious advice, my life took a turn for the best and even though I was already known as one of the best spy novelists when I met Shabnam, today I am the Master in the world of Spy Novels, and the success I am experiencing, is extraordinary!
Once again, thanks to Shabnam for her presence, her patience and her ability to lead me on this new life path".
Software Developer, Canada
"When I met Shabnam, I was a newcomer in Canada. I was trying to navigate and see how I could fit in. I was in search of some guidance to build my career path. Shabnam was once a newcomer and a woman in tech sector. She was volunteering her time so that people with similar experiences, could have a smoother and a more joyful process to find their path. She inspired me every session we had and made me believe that it is possible to succeed as a female newcomer in the Canadian IT world. Through working with Shabnam, I gained confidence, hope and inspiration to keep going. Shabnam is kind and one of the most inspiring people I have ever met. I enjoyed every minute of the coaching program, and I could not have asked for more."