Negin's Life Journey...
I was born and raised in Tehran, Iran. Since early childhood, I have been inspired by the mystery of existence. This passion and curiosity have shaped my interest in philosophy, physics, psychology, mythology, mystic literature and art. I have also been deeply inspired by such luminaries as Buddha, Jesus Christ, Rumi, Saint Francesco, Joan of Arc and Gandhi. In fact, for many years I have been drawn to Gandhi’s motto and made a sincere attempt to be the change I wish to see in the world and to conduct my life in such a way that it actually becomes my message. This decision led me to choose roads less traveled in many areas of my life. I have always made a concerted effort to use my inner guidance rather than simply following the status quo.
My early youth was filled with peaks and valleys as I found the traditional gender role society had defined for women to be very confining. At one point, for a brief period I had even considered changing my gender. Upon discussing this with my parents they had suggested that it may be wise to seek guidance and support from a psychologist. In the few sessions I had with a very good psychologist he introduced me to Abraham Maslow’s book ‘Motivation and Personality’ and how I can take the path to self-actualization. This opened a new door for me and led to reinventing my definition of what it was to be a woman. I felt a sense of expansiveness that I could now explore both my masculine and feminine energy. My parents also gave me the freedom to engage in activities and interests that may often be more associated with men. Eventually, I was able to embrace my womanhood in a more meaningful and powerful way. I am grateful for my parents' patience, acceptance and support in this process. I see how this apparently difficult journey has blessed me to find a perfect balance between Yin and Yang, Anima and Animus in my skin and how it equips me to support my clients who seek clarity with their genders.
I had the same challenge in recognizing myself in other divisions and identities generally so easily accepted by the majority of people. I observed how these identities of nationality, ethnicity, religion, race, gender, relationships, and career path are all limiting. I had difficulty to define myself with any of these identities. I felt considering myself in any specific boundary will leave part of me unaccepted and excluded. I couldn’t pinpoint one single role among all this to really give a satisfying answer to my question of “who am I?” even the combination of all wasn’t able do it.I realized I maybe all this but these still are not me. This early confusion about my quiddity and various social identities grew into to an inner search to find quiddity beyond the physical and to the discovery of the deeper roots of who I am and the reason I am here. This one question of “Who am I?” as Ramana Maharshi has said, destroyed all other thoughts and turned into the sole quest in my life.
I had an unquenchable thirst for literature, philosophy and reflection on life in general and since high school to the end of university I immersed myself in the works of Hermann Hesse, André Gide, Marguerite Duras, Sadegh Hedayat, Anton Chekhov, Franz Kafka, Søren Kierkegaard, Friedrich Nietzsche, Martin Heidegger and many more. I balanced the intensity of my intellectual search with the grace of art and practiced painting, wood carving, pottery, photography, poetry and singing. I also followed music and cinema by listening and watching voraciously and attending film clubs, art history and film critic classes.
I studied architecture which appealed to my desire to fuse art with practicality. In my third year of university, I began working for a leading architectural firm and continued working there for four years. I focused for two years on my thesis and my final project that was an urban plaza based on Carl Jung’s Collective Unconscious. I was inspired by some of the world’s most influential and recurring archetypes and they became my design concepts for this project. Upon completing a Master’s degree in architecture, I worked mainly on my own contracts and that of my colleagues. This experience enabled me to engage in the design and planning of projects of varying scales from dwelling units to museums.
I discovered Heartfulness at the age of 22 and started practicing meditation and the other practices related to this unique method of Raja Yoga. I have had the privilege of being trained under the guidance of such masters as Kamlesh D. Patel (Daaji) and Parthasarathi Rajagopalachari (Chariji). Through them, I learned the profound teachings of their great masters Ram Chandra of Shahjahanpur (Babuji) and Ram Chandra of Fatehgar (Lalaji).
In 2010, I was trained and certified as a Heartfulness Trainer in India to impart spiritual training by Pranahuti. My search for meaning led me to explore a wide variety of traditions, beliefs and stories of our origin and how the world works. I delved into such fields as mythology, philosophy, psychology, quantum mechanics, epigenetics and learned from such teachers as Florence Scovel Sheen, Louise Hay, Michael Newton, Neale Donald Walsch, Eckhart Tolle, Brian Weiss, Wayne Dyer, Abraham Hicks, Mary Morrissey, Joe Dispenza, Gregg Braden, Bruce Lipton, Jean Houston, Jordan Peterson, Lynne McTaggart, Marina Jacobi among others.
Through a long and deep dive into the waters of mystery, meaning and self-discovery, I developed an all-consuming interest that inevitably shaped my perspective on life and on what matters most. I have always been drawn to activities that were somehow related to public education and increasing the collective awareness. I was a writer for Tehran Avenue and also continue to write for Constant Remembrance, and Heartfulness magazines. In addition, I have organized talks, events, and festivals that addressed important issues in the community. I have also collaborated with a number of NGOs and nonprofit organizations and have organized independent film screening critic sessions, music and poetry programs, book clubs, walks, and weekly group meditations. Educating and empowering the community has long been an unrelenting passion of mine.
I moved to Toronto, Canada in 2014 and considered it an opportunity to begin anew. I decided to take some time to explore my new surroundings and reflect on the life I most wanted to create and where I wanted to live. In 2015, I traveled and spent six months living in India which was an old desire of mine and then returned to Canada which I now call home. The overall trend I have been observing in architecture was to respond first and foremost to the greed of builders rather than the needs of society and considering the environment. This seemed meaningless, superficial and unfulfilling to me. I was ready for a transition into something more meaningful. I soon discovered that not having Canadian work experience was a barrier to securing employment not to mention the challenge of finding work in another field. In an effort to ease the transition, I worked as an architectural designer for a smaller firm in Toronto. Shortly after, I moved into a zoning and planning role for a local municipality which continued for close to four years.
In 2018, it was finally time for honoring my heart's calling and walking in the direction it was pulling me, to realign and focus on a career that would enable me to bring together the many facets of my journey and channel it towards my life’s work. I decided to return to my first love of psychology and shift my career path from designing buildings and taking part in the planning of towns to helping people design their destinies and shape their lives so they live congruently with their highest values and ultimately reach their full potential.
I had the privilege to meet Shabnam who was also a lifetime seeker. Our first meeting was on Feb 10 2019, when she came to my place along with a dear friend, to attend the meditation event I was hosting on the auspicious day of the birth anniversary of Lalaji, the first master in the Heartfulness lineage. This marked the beginning of a process of sharing our inner journeys with one another and what most inspired us, through which we found common aspirations and ideals. This friendship was timely as I was moving toward realigning my career path and unfolded into founding Be 8nfinite in May 2020.
Currently I am continuing my studies towards a Doctorate of Psychology, while supporting my clients as the consciousness and communication coach and educator at Be 8nfinite. In supporting my clients, my natural sensitivity and empathy enhanced by years of my practice as a Heartfulness trainer allow me to easily and immediately connect with the emotional condition of my clients. My first natural response to what brings them discomfort is to embrace them fully. I show them how self-compassion and acceptance of what is creates a space for change. I help them to recognize the imperfect nature of the human condition and to get comfortable in facing what may be perceived as mistake or failure. That holds a profound sense of liberation in itself. Then comes the time to challenge the limitations and boxes they have created in their minds through different identities they have accepted along the way. In a process of removing these self or societal made limitations and expanding my clients’ consciousness beyond that, most of the problems they are struggling with disappears and dissolves. I also equip my clients with practical tools to shift their energy in facing difficult situations and through that they can instantly shift the reality before them. Shifting our energy, expanding our consciousness, and refining our ways of communication does wonders in relationships and situations of any nature in life.
I personally enjoy creative expressions such as poetry, painting, photography and video art as ways of connecting to my inner inspirations, feelings and needs and I rejoice in supporting others in exploring healing effects of art. I inspire people to get in touch with their inner being, meaning, power and to discover their unique ways of expression and to identify their most effective and impactful roles in society.
I live in Beaverton, Ontario and I enjoy being active in the community by serving on boards and committees of a few not-for-profit organizations that support public education, community health and empowering women and the elderly. Very early in my childhood, I came to know the great Indian poet and philosopher Rabindranath Tagore through my wonderful father. This short verse by Tagore echoes eloquently my thoughts on life and work:
“I slept and dreamt
that life was joy.
I awoke and saw
that life was duty.
I worked - and behold,
duty was joy.”
What They Say About Negin
CAD designer, Canada
"After I moved from Ethiopia to Canada in 2018, despite my previous work experience, I was struggling to find a job that matches my education and experience. I applied for the TRIEC mentoring program and was matched with Negin. After reviewing her educational background, work experience, and achievements, I knew that she was the kind of mentor I wanted to work with. Since day one, I enjoyed all the program sessions as they were very engaging and empowering which helped me to focus on my goals and show steady progress. Negin was an amazing coach, very friendly and a good listener. She showed me there were many opportunities for a related career and I do not need to settle for something that does not meet my goals. Basically, I got a new perspective towards both my personal and professional life with wisdom, knowledge and experience Negin shared with me. I cannot express enough how much Negin helped me to see life from a different perspective."
"Working with Negin has been a real pleasure! She is a leader who embraces diversity, a mentor who challenges her mentees to think critically and introspectively, to identify and explore various career avenues where they can best contribute their skills and professional international experiences. Most importantly, Negin provides her mentees with a significant boost in confidence which significantly increases their chances to become successful in their new lives and Canadian careers. In my opinion, Negin’s most important strengths are her leadership skills, passion to help others and the keen desire to contribute and give back to the community. As a TRIEC mentor, she has demonstrated excellent leadership and coaching skills, inspired others to be the best version of themselves."